Don’t Be Negative
Life is miserable for those children who have to deal with parents who are constantly negative. Such parents do not forget mistakes, harp on small issues, and are always predicting the worst.
• “You are not studying hard, you are bound to fail”
• “Your room is such a mess, I wonder how sloppy your house will be when you grow up”
• “Stop troubling your younger sister, you have no love for her at all".
The above are examples of negative and perhaps destructive comments.
A parent may sometimes say such things in anger, but it is the constant repetition of negative comments that affect a child greatly.
A happy home is one in which children know that they will be disciplined when necessary, but do not have to fear a sharp tongue or harsh words. Some parents also have a very negative attitude on life. They complain of their work, and the people they work with. They blame the world for their troubles and are quick to talk negatively about others. All this is undoubtedly going to have an effect on the child. A child who has heard a lot about how unfair and difficult life is may form a dim view of life in this world. His enthusiasm for life decreases. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) taught us how to view our life and to be optimistic and hopeful:
“How wonderful is the situation of the believer, for all his affairs are good. If something good happens to him, he gives thanks for it and that is good for him; if something bad happens to him, he bears it with patience, and that is good for him. This does not apply to anyone but the believer”.
A great deal of a
child’s joy and zest for living stems from what his parents think and say about life. It is always necessary to avoid being too negative when talking in front of
children.
Other links:
Feeling happy? Spread it around
Did you know that negative thoughts can destroy your life?
Ways to Build Your Child’s Confidence
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Swin Flu: What you Need to Know (part 2)
Reading Books to Babies (part1)
Reading Books to Babies (part 2)
