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How to make your wife happy!!

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 1. Beautiful Reception

    * After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you:

     begin with a good greeting.

    * Start with Assalamau 'Aliaykum and a smile. salam is a Sunnah and a

      du'aa for her as well.

    * Shake her hand and leave bad news for later!

 2. Sweet Speech and Enchanting Invitations

    * Choose words that are positive and avoid negative ones.

    * Give her your attention when you speak of she speaks.

    * Speak with clarity and repeat words if necessary until she understands.

    * Call her with the nice names that she likes, e.g. my sweet-heart,

      honey, saaliha, etc.

 3. Friendliness and Recreation

    * Spend time talking together.

    * Spread to her goods news.

    * Remember your good memories together.

 4. Games and Distractions

    * Joking around & having a sense of humor.

    * Playing and competing with each other in sports or whatever.

    * Taking her to watch permissible (halal) types of entertainment.

    * Avoiding prohibited (haram) things in your choices of entertainment.

 5. Assistance in the Household

    * Doing what you as an individual can/like to do that helps out,

      especially if she is sick or tired.

    * The most important thing is making it obvious that he appreciates her

      hard work.

 6. Consultation (Shurah)

   * Specifically in family matters.

    * Giving her the feeling that her opinion is important to you.

    * Studying her opinion carefully.

    * Be willing to change an opinion for hers if it is better.

    * Thanking her for helping him with her opinions.

 7. Visiting Others

    * Choosing well raised people to build relations with.  There is a great

      reward in visiting relatives and pious people.  (Not in wasting time

      while visiting!)

    * Pay attention to ensure Islamic manners during visits.

    * Not forcing her to visit whom she does not feel comfortable with.

 8. Conduct during travel

    * Offer a warm farewell and good advice.

    * Ask her to pray for him.

    * Ask pious relatives and friends to take care of the family in your


    * Give her enough money for what she might need.

    * Try to stay in touch with her whether by phone, e-mail, letters, etc..

    * Return as soon as possible.

    * Bring her a gift!

    * Avoid returning at an unexpected time or at night.

    * Take her with you if possible.

 9. Financial Support

    * The husband needs to be generous within his financial capabilities.  He

      should not be a miser with his money (nor wasteful).

    * He gets rewards for all what he spends on her sustenance even for a

      small piece of bread that he feeds her by his hand (hadeith).

    * He is strongly encouraged to give to her before she asks him.

10. Aiding in the Obedience to Allah

    * Teach her what you know of the Qur'an and its tafseer.

    * Teach her "Dhikr" (ways to remember Allah by the example of the

      Prophet) in the morning and evening.

    * Encourage her to spend money for the sake of Allah such as in a charity


    * Take her to Hajj and Umrah when you can afford to do so.

 11. Showing Respect for her Family and Friends

    * Take her to visit her family and relatives, especially her parents.

    * Invite them to visit her and welcome them.

    * Give them presents on special occasions.

    * Help them when needed with money, effort, etc..

    * Keep good relations with her family after her death if she dies first.

      Also in this case the husband is encouraged to follow the Sunnah

      and keep giving what she used to give in her life to her friends and


12. (Islamic) Training & Admonition

    This includes

    * The basics of Islam

    * Her duties and rights

    * Reading and writing

    * Encouraging her to attend lessons and halaqahs

    * Islamic rules (ahkam) related to women

    * Buying Islamic books and tapes for the home library

13. Pardoning and Appropriate Censure

    * Accounting her only for larger mistakes.

    * Forgive mistakes done to him but account her for mistakes done in

      Allah's rights, e.g. delaying prayers, etc..

    * Remember all the good she does whenever she makes a mistake.

    * Remember that all humans err so try to find excuses for her such as

      maybe she is tired, sad, having her monthly cycle or that her

      commitment to Islam is growing.

    * Avoid attacking her for the bad cooking of the food as the Prophet PBUH

      never blamed any of his wives for this. If he likes the food, he eats

      and if he doesn't then he does not eat and does not comment.

    * Before declaring her to be in error, try other indirect approaches that

      are more subtle than direct accusations

    * Escape from using insults and words that may hurt her feelings.

    * When it becomes necessary to discuss a problem wait until you have

      privacy from others.

    * Waiting until the anger has subsided a bit can help to keep a control

      on your words.

 it is part ONE of a summary of the book "How to make your wife

 Happy" by Sheikh Mohammed Abdelhaleem Hamed.


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